Deep down and even on the service, we all want to fit in. Geometrically and socially, it feels better to fit in our clothes, cars, shoes, hats and our own ill-fitting, poorly designed skin.
Fitting in your town, neighborhood and culture are more difficult to define and accomplish. Some days I want to fit in, others just blend in. As one ages, one is often content with just being here. In my early days of living la vida Logan, I spent a lot of time and energy purposely not fitting in. I had long hair, earrings and played outsider sports like soccer and ultimate frisbee. I know, those are insider sports now and many young people of indigenous faiths have long hair and even tattoos.